A Reddit user’s emotional post is gaining attention as it highlights the personal and legal crossroads faced by visa holders in the United States when employment and immigration timelines collide.
The user, a male foreign national on Optional Practical Training (OPT) nearing its STEM extension, recently lost his job and is now grappling with what to do next before falling out of status. With just a month remaining on his current visa, the stakes are high.
He has been in a committed relationship for over three years with his partner, a woman currently working in the U.S. on an H-1B visa. The couple, who had originally planned to marry later this year or next, are now considering an accelerated wedding timeline so the laid-off worker can switch to an H-4 dependent visa.
Under this plan, he would remain in the U.S. legally but would face a significant employment gap, potentially up to two years, while waiting for his H-4 Employment Authorization Document (EAD)—a delay tied to the timeline of his partner’s green card application process.
His partner pointed out the tax benefits of switching to an H-4 now, claiming the couple might save more money together than he would earn working back in their Asian home country. Still, the Redditor admitted he deeply enjoys working and fears losing momentum in his career. He’s also considering returning home to work and possibly starting a YouTube channel to share insights and support others.
The post has drawn support and advice from fellow immigrants, many of whom have faced similar dilemmas. Some recommended the H-4 route as a long-term investment, while others warned of the isolation and frustration that can come with an extended period of forced unemployment.