A frustrated employee recently shared his unpleasant experience on the subreddit Indian Workplace, detailing how his manager reacted unreasonably when he applied for marriage leave that had already been sanctioned by HR. Months before his wedding, the employee had informed his manager about his December plans and even mentioned that he had been diligently saving up his leaves for the occasion. Out of the 45 days of total annual leave, he had accumulated 31.
As the big day approached, he officially requested four days of marriage leave and twelve additional days for his honeymoon in Europe. To his surprise, his manager rejected the application without citing any legitimate reason. Despite multiple attempts to reach out to him on Teams, every message went unanswered. After several days of waiting, he decided to escalate the issue to the manager’s superior and the HR department. They reviewed his situation and quickly approved his request, acknowledging that his leave was both reasonable and planned well in advance.
However, this decision did not sit well with his direct manager. When the employee sent a wedding invitation through WhatsApp—just as he had done with his other teammates—the manager didn’t even acknowledge it, let alone send his congratulations. Since then, he has continued to ignore the employee entirely, refusing to respond to messages or interactions at work. The employee described his manager’s behavior as immature and emotionally driven, comparing it to that of an upset teenager.
Feeling demotivated, the employee admitted that he was seriously considering moving to another team or even finding a new job altogether. While he initially thought about confronting his manager, he ultimately decided it would be pointless since communication had already broken down. Seeking advice, he asked Redditors how to navigate this awkward situation until he could make a switch — whether to keep his distance and remain strictly professional or adopt a more strategic approach to deal with the hostility.
Reddit Weighs In
One Redditor advised him to stop worrying about the issue altogether and focus on his upcoming wedding and honeymoon, suggesting that work-related stress could wait until his return. Another user empathized, sharing that they were laid off just a week after their marriage, forcing them to cancel their honeymoon plans.
A third commenter recounted a similar ordeal, explaining how their company laid them off just days after returning from their honeymoon. They described the betrayal of being congratulated in the morning and terminated by afternoon, calling it a cruel and unprofessional act that left them furious.
The post struck a chord online, resonating with many professionals who have faced insensitivity from managers during life’s most meaningful moments.